Post by Angel on Nov 19, 2010 14:37:13 GMT -5
It can be confusing to know if you are Gay, Bi or Straight when you are still in Puberty. Not everyone grows up through this period fully aware of their sexual identity. You can start to wonder if you are gay or bi because of thoughts you have had, or things that you do. You should not label yourself at this age as it can all change by the time you have grown through and out of puberty. For many they will not know for sure until they have outgrown adolescence. completely.
It's something you feel deep inside. You may not know for a while and be unsure, but it's only something YOU know. No one else can tell you.
If you're a boy/girl and have a girl/boyfriend that doesn't necessarily mean you're straight.
Also, there is a big difference between curiosity and being sexually attracted. If you are a male and are attracted to other males or if you are a female and are attracted to other females this could mean that you are gay or bisexual. If you are attracted to only those of the same sex, then you are most likely gay or lesbian. If you are attracted to those of the same sex AND those of the opposite sex then you are most likely bisexual. However, there is a lot of gray area in between gay and straight and you may find that even the term "bisexual" doesn't quite fit you.
And, as said above, only you know how you feel inside and who those feelings are directed towards. Either way, listen to your heart and soul and trust that they will lead you in the direction that is right for you. Besides the sexual attraction which is important. Also keep in mind who do you want to be with in a relationship. Whom do you want to marry? Who do you want to grow old with? Most important who do you love, can you love a man or a woman?
Do you want to be loved by a man or a woman or both? In your own time you will find out and hopefully you will like the answer. Enjoy the exploration, have fun and be safe. If you are younger than 21 or 22, then these questions might be less meaningful to you. When we are young, sexual orientation is mixed in with all kinds of dynamic and sometimes uncomfortable things that we are dealing with every moment.
Many times young persons will have various sexual experiences with people of both genders just as part of the process of growing up. Even people well beyond their 20's will sometimes feel the need to experiment at one time or another. There is no need to seek labels for these experiences, and in fact labels are often more harmful than good. As we mature and begin to seek and form important relationships with individuals, the sexual piece gets clearer and clearer.
Many people have strong sexual responses to members of the opposite gender, and some of those also have one degree or another of attraction to same-sex individuals. Others have more or less exclusive interest in relationships with members of ones own gender. It's more important to be concerned about learning how to enjoy your friendships and relationships in healthy and mature ways. The sexual part sorts itself out for most of us by the time we make it into our mid-20's or so. I'm Bi and I knew it as soon as I saw a guy I liked..... unfortunately that story ends with crying but..... it is a gut feeling, unfortunately at teenage years you have to take what ever that says with a pinch of salt. Anyway you should know if your gay, bi and so on.
Although I do admit there will be times when you don't trust yourself, and during this time you will feel bad and even depressed (hope it won't happen to you) but I found (the hard way) that the best thing to do is talk to someone you feel safe that they wont spread the news, my advise is to not go to your family as it will feel extremely strange!
You should try and talk to a close friend, if you go to someone that is gay (so on) it is easier to believe that they are taking you seriously. hope I have helped. Bad news: the same things that cause heterosexual relationships to fail can also cause gay relationships to fail.
Good news: the same things that sustain heterosexual relationships can sustain gay relationships.
There is no real way to know. Sexual urges come in many forms. Being attracted to someone of the same sex is usually a sign that you are gay. But not definite. You can have sexual fantasies about people of the same sex or even have sexual experiences (kissing, sex, hugging, dating, etc.) and still be straight.
This is a controversial and highly debated topic that has no clear, easy, answer. The best suggestion is to find an adult that you trust and ask them to help you find out. This may be more difficult to talk to your parents about, but perhaps the school guidance counselor could help, or at least give you some resources that will help you find out for yourself.
Ultimately, it is your decision, and when it becomes clear to you, you will at one point know for sure. Sometimes we need to be patient and let nature take its course. That may be what you need to most.
wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_know_if_you_are_gay_or_bisexual
It's something you feel deep inside. You may not know for a while and be unsure, but it's only something YOU know. No one else can tell you.
If you're a boy/girl and have a girl/boyfriend that doesn't necessarily mean you're straight.
Also, there is a big difference between curiosity and being sexually attracted. If you are a male and are attracted to other males or if you are a female and are attracted to other females this could mean that you are gay or bisexual. If you are attracted to only those of the same sex, then you are most likely gay or lesbian. If you are attracted to those of the same sex AND those of the opposite sex then you are most likely bisexual. However, there is a lot of gray area in between gay and straight and you may find that even the term "bisexual" doesn't quite fit you.
And, as said above, only you know how you feel inside and who those feelings are directed towards. Either way, listen to your heart and soul and trust that they will lead you in the direction that is right for you. Besides the sexual attraction which is important. Also keep in mind who do you want to be with in a relationship. Whom do you want to marry? Who do you want to grow old with? Most important who do you love, can you love a man or a woman?
Do you want to be loved by a man or a woman or both? In your own time you will find out and hopefully you will like the answer. Enjoy the exploration, have fun and be safe. If you are younger than 21 or 22, then these questions might be less meaningful to you. When we are young, sexual orientation is mixed in with all kinds of dynamic and sometimes uncomfortable things that we are dealing with every moment.
Many times young persons will have various sexual experiences with people of both genders just as part of the process of growing up. Even people well beyond their 20's will sometimes feel the need to experiment at one time or another. There is no need to seek labels for these experiences, and in fact labels are often more harmful than good. As we mature and begin to seek and form important relationships with individuals, the sexual piece gets clearer and clearer.
Many people have strong sexual responses to members of the opposite gender, and some of those also have one degree or another of attraction to same-sex individuals. Others have more or less exclusive interest in relationships with members of ones own gender. It's more important to be concerned about learning how to enjoy your friendships and relationships in healthy and mature ways. The sexual part sorts itself out for most of us by the time we make it into our mid-20's or so. I'm Bi and I knew it as soon as I saw a guy I liked..... unfortunately that story ends with crying but..... it is a gut feeling, unfortunately at teenage years you have to take what ever that says with a pinch of salt. Anyway you should know if your gay, bi and so on.
Although I do admit there will be times when you don't trust yourself, and during this time you will feel bad and even depressed (hope it won't happen to you) but I found (the hard way) that the best thing to do is talk to someone you feel safe that they wont spread the news, my advise is to not go to your family as it will feel extremely strange!
You should try and talk to a close friend, if you go to someone that is gay (so on) it is easier to believe that they are taking you seriously. hope I have helped. Bad news: the same things that cause heterosexual relationships to fail can also cause gay relationships to fail.
Good news: the same things that sustain heterosexual relationships can sustain gay relationships.
There is no real way to know. Sexual urges come in many forms. Being attracted to someone of the same sex is usually a sign that you are gay. But not definite. You can have sexual fantasies about people of the same sex or even have sexual experiences (kissing, sex, hugging, dating, etc.) and still be straight.
This is a controversial and highly debated topic that has no clear, easy, answer. The best suggestion is to find an adult that you trust and ask them to help you find out. This may be more difficult to talk to your parents about, but perhaps the school guidance counselor could help, or at least give you some resources that will help you find out for yourself.
Ultimately, it is your decision, and when it becomes clear to you, you will at one point know for sure. Sometimes we need to be patient and let nature take its course. That may be what you need to most.
wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_know_if_you_are_gay_or_bisexual